Western society's obsession with painting women as self-conscious and dependent upon male attention for self confidence has somehow translated to completely forgetting the fact that males too would benefit from being credited as beautiful.
You are all familiar with the scene. A woman gets all dressed up for some fancy evening event, her significant other’s jaw drops, and he tells her how beautiful she looks. When a guy picks up his date he compliments her on how freakin’ gorgeous she looks tonight. Now, I have never been a male before, but I’m just guessing that maybe they’d like to be called beautiful every once in awhile as well. Perhaps, men would enjoy some recognition when they go the extra mile.
If women feel glorious when their male lovers remind them of their physical attractiveness, why would men be exempt from the potential confidence boost? Are males so overflowing with self esteem that they'd simply scuff at such a suggestion? You don't need to be lacking in self confidence to reap the benefits of kind words. Furthermore, don’t forget to tell yourself how stellar you are either. Regardless of your relationship status you don’t need anyone else’s commentary to feel great.
Guys totally benefit from it. And it doesn't even have to be a comment about appearance. Simple things like "You're really smart" or "You look handsome today" or even "You're good in bed" can do wonders for a guy (this is speaking from personal experience, I say things like this to every guy I date and they totally deserve it)
ReplyDeleteMen are not always as confident as we seem. Disregard gender for a minute here and just think about people. People by their nature can be very mean, and women and men can both judge harshly. Men are judged by women in a lot of the same ways and this also effects self esteem. A lot of time the confidence is an act because its the only thing that will work, and we are really full of doubt. Telling a man he looks handsome when he tries to look nice is awesome...trust me!
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